How Do You Discover The Primary Of Your Children?

Let me suggest 3 ways

1. OBSERVE HOW THEY EXPRESS LOVE TO YOU.
If you son regularly tells you what a good parent you are and what a good job you do preparing meals, and so forth, his love language is like words of affirmation. If your daughter is always bring you gifts she has made and wrapped in gifts paper or gifts she has found, then her love language is likely receiving gifts. If a child always want to hug and touch, suspect that the
number-one love language is physical touch. If hr continually wants to help you with your work around the house, the likely love language is acts of service. If she constantly wants to play with you, read books with you and do things with you, her love language is mostly like quality time. Your children are giving to you what they like to receive themselves.

My daughter's love language is physical touch. I learned it when she was about three. When I can home in the afternoon she would run up to me, jump on my lap, hug and kiss me. She was touching me because she wanted to be touch.

On the other hand, our son's love language is quality time. This motivated me to spend many evenings talking and spending quality time with him.

My son can never seem to understand why my daughter always hugs and says repeatedly "let go of mum and stop acting like a baby". What makes one child feel loved will not necessarily make another feel loved. The key is to learn the primary love language of each child and speak that language consistently. Once you are sure to have a balanced child who understands; my parents care for me a great deal. After noticing what your children do for you.

2. OBSERVE WHAT YOUR CHILDREN REQUEST OF YOU MOST OFTEN.
Those most often will be a reflection of their primary love language. If your child says to you as you leave on a trip, " Be sure and bring me something, " he is giving you a clear clue to his primary love language. If he regularly asks, "How did I do, mommy?" He is telling you that words of affirmation is his primary language. If your son continually requests that you walk with him or play with him or do things with him, he is revealing that his primary language is quality time. Listen to your children's requests carefully until you see a pattern emerging.

3. A THIRD CLUE IS TO LISTEN FOR WHAT YOUR CHILDREN COMPLAIN ABOUT MOST OFTEN.
If they are critical of you because you don't play with them or you don't bring them gifts or you didn't mention the A they made on their report card, they are giving you a clue as to their primary love language. Children are most critical in the area of life that is related to their primary love language.

"When you are Specking the child's language, the child will tend to be more receptive to your teaching or training."

Until you are certain of your child's love languages, focus on a different one each month and see how your child responds during the month. When you speaking the child's love language, the child will tend to be more receptive your teaching training. He will tend to have a more positive spirit about life in general and will tend to promote family harmony. When his love tank is empty, the child will be at his worst.