Ways to Tolerate People You Dislike
Everyone keeps telling us to stay away from harmful people but what to do when you have to talk with them on a daily basis? Maybe your coworker, friend or roommate, you cannot just quit a job or find another good place to live. Someone doesn’t like you while you dislike another person. That is the earth we live in, so why not treat everyone with respect?
This is the best way to simplify your moral standards and reduce your stress. No one is an expert, after all. I spent four (4) years trying to change my ex-girlfriend because I actually did not like her (well, I have no reason why I dated her), rather than concentrating on my needs and personal growth. Don’t try to change those you dislike, here are some tips to deal with them without hurting you.
Everyone is different. The more people, the more points of view. Even if you don’t accept their opinion, just try to accept it in any way. Don’t show your weakness. You should always show your high level of understanding.
You may not understand the person you don’t like, but it doesn’t mean they’re as worst as you think. It means that both of you are hard to understand in your own ways. You’ve different attitudes, merits, and trusts that prevent two of you from getting along with each other always.
Always remember they aren’t you. Everyone has the choice to live the life as they wish and nobody has the right to disagree. Never setting too high expectations about those you dislike. Accept them the way they are. Do not discuss the topics you know will make them angry with you. Whether it is your friend, family member or neighbor, you cannot just say goodbye to them. Cultivating a better manner about them is a good way out.
Always be kind and showing good behavior to others. Don’t respond when you’re angry. Take a few seconds to calm down and try to clear your mind from negative thoughts. If you’re harsh to them, they will be harsh to you too. The matter will never be solved then.
Instead of thought about the bad habits that person possesses, concentrate on why you’re behaving the way you’re. When you’re occupied with your own life, you don’t notice others. It is a good way to deal with those you dislike than just ignoring them.
Oftentimes, we didn’t have a choice when it comes to the people we have to communicate with on daily basis. It’s all about your manner, not them. Stay away from people who make you feel sad or angry. It doesn’t mean ignoring them, is the best way.
Just aim to talk with them. For instance; 1 hour per day, and no more. Most importantly, imagine how people who dislike you permit you and it will be easier for you to handle those you dislike. How do you permit people who bother you?
This is the best way to simplify your moral standards and reduce your stress. No one is an expert, after all. I spent four (4) years trying to change my ex-girlfriend because I actually did not like her (well, I have no reason why I dated her), rather than concentrating on my needs and personal growth. Don’t try to change those you dislike, here are some tips to deal with them without hurting you.
- Accept their opinion
Everyone is different. The more people, the more points of view. Even if you don’t accept their opinion, just try to accept it in any way. Don’t show your weakness. You should always show your high level of understanding.
- Realize that everyone is hard to understand in their own way
You may not understand the person you don’t like, but it doesn’t mean they’re as worst as you think. It means that both of you are hard to understand in your own ways. You’ve different attitudes, merits, and trusts that prevent two of you from getting along with each other always.
- Never set too high expectations about them
Always remember they aren’t you. Everyone has the choice to live the life as they wish and nobody has the right to disagree. Never setting too high expectations about those you dislike. Accept them the way they are. Do not discuss the topics you know will make them angry with you. Whether it is your friend, family member or neighbor, you cannot just say goodbye to them. Cultivating a better manner about them is a good way out.
- Let them know how you feel
Always be kind and showing good behavior to others. Don’t respond when you’re angry. Take a few seconds to calm down and try to clear your mind from negative thoughts. If you’re harsh to them, they will be harsh to you too. The matter will never be solved then.
- Concentrate on your life.
Instead of thought about the bad habits that person possesses, concentrate on why you’re behaving the way you’re. When you’re occupied with your own life, you don’t notice others. It is a good way to deal with those you dislike than just ignoring them.
Oftentimes, we didn’t have a choice when it comes to the people we have to communicate with on daily basis. It’s all about your manner, not them. Stay away from people who make you feel sad or angry. It doesn’t mean ignoring them, is the best way.
Just aim to talk with them. For instance; 1 hour per day, and no more. Most importantly, imagine how people who dislike you permit you and it will be easier for you to handle those you dislike. How do you permit people who bother you?
Ways to Tolerate People You Dislike
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