Reasons why some Nigerian men are scared of marriage

1.    The economic recession
In fact, this is one of the major reasons. Imagine a 32 years old guy with no accommodation of his own which is no fault of his. He has graduated and has done what is expected of him as a scholar and has no Monday-Friday white collar job or a streamline of businesses that comes in quarterly. How can a man propose to a woman in such a state? Men who marry women who are more financially buoyant than them later become intimidated.

You hear cases of domestic violence, the man saying the woman is proud, talks to him arrogantly because she has money more money than him, it’s a very big issue, its best the man and woman both have jobs and
are financially independent. It’s better the man working and the woman taking care of the children. A woman can contribute to the upkeep of the family. Modernization theory says it doesn’t matter, looking at the drama between husband and wife palaver it matters except few.

2.    Pride and arrogance
Some men have this issue. You see the bible even condemns pride. When a man feels he knows it all, works in a well-paid company, can have any other woman he wants and do whatever he wants with whomever he wants and gets away with it, when he meets women, he feels none is worthy of him, he picks and looks for faults at intervals, the way the lady dresses, cooks even have s-x. He has his type and most times his type is as proud as he is. So he remains single. Men like this ends up taking their girlfriends as their wives and their wives as their girlfriends. When the pressure from his family is high – if he finally marries, he marries for children.

3.    Losing their independence
We have a lot of professional and career oriented men – men who feel so at ease with their lives to get a woman to say they want to spend the rest of their lives with – that woman has to be extraordinary to take him off his work chair. This class of men manage their emotions and have respect for their bodies, they don’t just have s-x, they make love. For a woman to make them look twice – she really must be something. They don’t mind waiting till when they are 50 years.

4.    Lifestyle
The reason why some women are still single is that some guys refuse to be responsible, that’s just it. Some are drug addicts, have no vision, they hang out all day with weirdos taking a lot of hard substance and when you look at this guys, they aren’t that bad – some from good family. SAD! This have left a lot of single ladies unmarried. Who wants to commit their lives to such men?

5.    Fear of the unknown
Finally, some men feel a lot of women pretend, when they get into their house they change and become demons. LOL! Because they think they are smart they want to marry women they can control only to find out she is worse than their talkative ex-girlfriend. Some married men lament, they claim they married the wrong woman. Oops!

6.    Baggage from the past YES! In fact, the war of the roses on the s-xes is on; hormones are raging, the fights, the tweets, the insults on social media. Couples nowadays don’t know how to control their anger, we need anger management consultancy in Nigeria. Both men and women have different issues from past relationship, parental upbringing, turbulence all this stops a lot of men and women from having a loving relationship. Man meets a woman, falls in love or lust in a quote before you know it, a lot of hot s-x under the sheets and all of a sudden, the reality of whom you are stares at you right in the face. Naked and not ashamed, so this really scares men a lot – the drama that comes with the relationship.

Source: Naij